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m4Riii__

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THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY
« on: September 04, 2019, 03:34:30 PM »
This morning as I was getting coffee on my way to work, I suddenly remembered Ron, my first boyfriend. We were high school sophomores. He wasn't my classmate, but he had been my crush the entire freshman year, but my best friend had a crush on him too so I did not say anything. In sophomore year, Ron was transferred to our class. That same year we were required to join a church organization, and Ron and I were from the same parish. As luck would have it, we both joined the choir.

Ron was one of the class clowns. He was loud and was a jerk some of the time, but that's how most guys are, right? And we were basically just kids. Plus he has a face you couldn't help but love, and sparkling eyes that make you feel that he sees nothing else but you when you look into them. I was smitten over him, but I tried not to show him how I felt. We were just classmates, he was just one of the boys. But during class hours when he’s behaved and not trying to make anyone laugh, it felt good to just be seatmates with him. Like we were in some kind of bubble, and he would make sure to protect that bubble so no one gets in. I remember feeling too overwhelmed with the feeling, or maybe I was scared I was getting carried away too much by the feeling that I purposely picked a fight with him. And then I pushed him to change places with another classmate, and he did. But he left his bag beside my seat and he kept coming back to his bag to get a notebook or a pen or whatever. And then we were back to being seatmates after two days (or was it a day? I don’t remember anymore).

Before the school year ended he told me he liked me, and just like that, he was my boyfriend. I had very strict parents and of course they didn’t know I had a boyfriend, but one day before this church service where the choir was supposed to sing, he was knocking on our gate! I had to dash out of the house to make sure I wouldn’t be questioned about why someone was fetching me. I don’t remember him doing it again or going out with him while school was out. We would only see each other in church then for choir rehearsals and when we had to sing in the mass. We weren’t very showy, and there were times I felt like he didn’t even want to talk to me.

When school started again, we were ok, we were cool, but the bubble was gone. And then we had a new classmate who was charming all the girls. I was charmed too – but only because Ron and I weren’t talking so much anymore. And then one day, I learned that we weren’t an item anymore and it’s because of the new guy. A few days later I learned he was trying to win this girl (Honey)  from another class. And they became boyfriend-girlfriend. That was the end of us.

After high school, I did not hear much from or about him. But sometimes I would get a phone call from him, and he would wax sentimental about our days. And these phone calls were fun, I wanted them to keep happening but he was still with Honey and I didn’t want to be the cause of their rift, so I never really paid attention then. Looking back, I think those phone calls were his way of trying to see if we could still be together – if we could still work out. But I paid no heed. Then the phone calls stopped. Three years ago we had a class reunion and I saw him again – older, with greying sideburns, but still sexy as hell. He never lost the glimmer in his eye. And today there’s some weird force that’s telling me to tell him that he’s my THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY. No strings attached, no nothing. He’s got two kids with Honey. I have my own family too now. Should I do it? Please I need your opinions. Thanks.

ahlisvell

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Re: THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY
« Reply #1 on: September 04, 2019, 08:12:50 PM »
Girl, unless you are ready to have sex with this guy I say don't. He would think it's a booty call. greying sideburns and all, a man is still a man. You say you don't want to get between him and his wife, so don't. You maybe want the feels, but if you let him know, he's gonna think you want to sleep with him.

Take it from me. I'm a man, and most men think the same thing.

Be well.

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Re: THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY
« Reply #2 on: September 05, 2019, 02:08:04 AM »
Wow that is quite a long post. This is how bored I am. I was able to read through something as long as that that does not make me want to kill myself. I have been feeling this way lately, and has nothing to do with your writing or your story, m4Riii.

Since I am here and you're asking for an opinion, I think it's best not to do anything anymore. What do you want to get out of telling him that?

Still, it's your call. But I say no because he might get ideas that he wasn't even thinking. Or if he's an exceptional male, you might win a "new friend' -someone you can talk with about the old times without damaging your present relationships. I don't know. i hope you come to a decision not to complicate things.

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Re: THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY
« Reply #3 on: September 17, 2019, 01:09:15 AM »
I remember my TOTGA. I still think about him sometimes, but I am happy and content with my family now. I get wistful thinking about him, and I still get the old high schoolish feeling that makes me blush and giggly all over. But isn't that what young love is about? The highs. But I'm not young anymore, and what I have now - a commitment, maturity, a family - is not something I would trade for something that feels good but only lasts for a fleeting moment. Maybe you should get some perspective, m4Riii. What would contacting him do? Would you say hi and hello and maybe meet up for coffee? Reminisce and before you know it you will be kissing and saying you belong to each other? I don't think so, but maybe that's just me. Good luck with whatever you end up doing.

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Re: THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY
« Reply #4 on: September 18, 2019, 04:48:31 PM »
I don't think it would hurt to say hi. Unless you still have feelings for the guy. How long has it been since you last talked? Maybe you're just missing the good old days. Maybe you're bored. Maybe you want some closure, or say goodbye. I don't know. I don't think it's such a bad idea to talk to him. Just be careful. Like some of the peeps here said, try not to start anything. If you start feeling things, go cold turkey and never talk to him again.

Or maybe not. Up to you. If I were you, I would. Just to ask how he is and to tell him and then maybe stop talking to him altogether just so I don't get tempted into doing anything else. He is in my past for some reason, so maybe it's best to keep him there. As for friends, I already have a lot. I don't need a "friend" from the past who could possibly complicate my present life.

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« Reply #5 on: September 18, 2019, 05:26:12 PM »
These people, these men, why do they get away? Is it because we let them? Is it our fault that things did not go the way they should? Why should we suffer for things that are not within our control? I think it's unfair. Which is why I think you should have that talk with your ex. Clear everything. Find out what happened. Let him know how you feel. I think it's only fair that he knows exactly how you are, what you think and feel about everything that happened between the two of you.

What happens as a result of you talking with him will only reinforce what should have been, don't you think? If the feelings come back, then maybe you belong together. You'll never know unless you do something. If there are no feelings after the conversation, then good for you - at least you got to air yourself out. You will stop thinking, you will stop wondering. make the move. Talk with him.