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Wife Addicted to Phone
« on: July 15, 2019, 06:11:32 AM »
My wife is addicted to her phone. I love her, but this is getting out of hand. At the dinner table she will watch shows with her earphones on. Kids there too. Jesus. I tell her to stop it, but after a few minutes or after eating, she'll get back on it.

Sometimes she zones out while watching and I have to call her several times before I get her attention. wtf.



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Re: Wife Addicted to Phone
« Reply #1 on: August 12, 2019, 03:27:16 AM »
I hear ya. My daughter's the same way. Most of the parents' kids at school whip out phones during recess and play games. It's a pandemic!

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Re: Wife Addicted to Phone
« Reply #2 on: September 16, 2019, 11:22:34 PM »
Have you tried talking to your wife? You have kids, so maybe your wife has just had it. She's probably done with everything and just wants to stop caring. She's zoning off because she probably needs a break. I don't know. I wish I could do the same, but my kids are little - 7 and 1, so I can't.

Maybe you need to give her a break, like a day or two so she could enjoy time on her own. And then maybe when she gets back from her little holiday she'll be back to her old self. You know, women have needs too. maybe you need to have a dialogue with her, find out what she really wants and needs. For all you know she could be depressed and stuff. And she's escaping through her phone - have you ever even thought about that?

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Re: Wife Addicted to Phone
« Reply #3 on: September 20, 2019, 04:04:53 PM »
She needs intervention, then. Take her phone away or something. Break it so she could have at least a day or two unplugged. I know she's a grown woman, but it sounds like you need to do something drastic and make her come to her senses. Call her carrier and have them suspend her internet or whatever. Break your router or something like that. Both of you should go offline and just talk.

https://business.financialpost.com/diane-francis/cellphone-usage-is-the-new-smoking-its-time-to-follow-frances-example-and-stamp-it-out

QUITE ALARMING, REALLY.

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Re: Wife Addicted to Phone
« Reply #4 on: September 24, 2019, 01:36:55 AM »
How old is your wife, 12? I say give your wife a dose of her own medicine. Take up a hobby or something. Stop talking to her. You got kids, so maybe pour all your attention on them, exclude her from stuff you would normally do together. Aren't women like that? Ignore them and they'll come clinging to you? Maybe she has too much of your attention. Take the attention away from her and maybe she'll miss it and do right by you.

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Re: Wife Addicted to Phone
« Reply #5 on: September 29, 2019, 05:16:13 PM »
It can get pretty addictive, you know. You think you just whip out your phone and look at something funny like a meme or ancute cat video and next thing you know, you have like spent 3 hours not doing anything but stay glued to your phone. I know cause I'm like that at times - but only when I don't have work and school.

Maybe talk more to your wife, tell her how it's affecting you and maybe the kids. Or like, slide into her DMs. Talk to her there. SO even if she's on the phone she gets reminded of you and your kids. And maybe she will realize what she's doing wrong.

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Re: Wife Addicted to Phone
« Reply #6 on: September 29, 2019, 06:55:50 PM »
I hear ya. My daughter's the same way. Most of the parents' kids at school whip out phones during recess and play games. It's a pandemic!

Nothing could be truer. We have a difficult time at school getting kids to be more active. When they're not in class, you see their faces glued to their screens. I miss seeing kids who generally laugh and have fun and have face-to-face interaction. Now when they laugh, there are still screens involved. they laugh over memes and tik-toks and whatever new app there is.

Sometimes I even catch one or two kids snapchatting during the discussion. How are they going to learn when all they do is take selfies or post memes? And then they complain that they don't understand what I teach. How would they if they don't pay attention?

It's becoming a really bad situation. Something drastic should be done.

My wife is addicted to her phone. I love her, but this is getting out of hand. At the dinner table she will watch shows with her earphones on. Kids there too. Jesus. I tell her to stop it, but after a few minutes or after eating, she'll get back on it.

Sometimes she zones out while watching and I have to call her several times before I get her attention. wtf.




It gets pretty difficult to curb kids' usage when parents are like this too. Maybe talk to your wife, get her to therapy or something? Maybe she has some issues and she's trying to escape through her phone usage. I don't know. This seems like something you shouldn't take sitting down. Maybe she has an unmet need, or there's a problem you don't know about? I understand why people are attached to their gadgets, but adults usually have control over what they do - especially if they already have kids. Don't want to worry you, but maybe your wife needs to see someone for this behavior.

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Re: Wife Addicted to Phone
« Reply #7 on: October 08, 2019, 05:37:43 PM »
Yep, I agree with those who say she needs therapy. If y0u can't get her to stop just by talking to her about the issue, then I highly suggest you get her to speak with someone else - a professional. This sounds like a big problem. Maybe you should get her to talk to someone about cognitive behavioral therapy. I don't know if that thing works, but maybe you can try it. I'm also thinking about subliminal messages and all that - but that sounds like some mumbo-jumbo invented by someone to fool people, I don't know. Maybe other people can pitch in and tell us if that thing works - you know, those audio files you listen to that the conscious does not understand, but gets through to your subconscious and then changes your life?

Again I'm not sure it works but maybe it's worth a try since you seem to be at your wit's end about the situation?