Author Topic: GREEN-EYED MONSTER  (Read 513 times)

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GREEN-EYED MONSTER
« on: August 21, 2019, 02:19:17 PM »
The grass is always greener on the other side. Other people always have it better. They got better jobs, better salaries, better lives. They have prettier faces, they go to far more exciting places. Though I'm not usually an envious person, I have lately been feeling left out, no thanks to social media. My friends on Facebook and people I follow on Instagram have such glorious photos and posts they look like they are truly living the life. I understand that most of those posts and photos are filtered and made to look perfect, but lately I have been catching myself wishing that I could live these people's lives.

I shouldn't be complaining, I know. I have a roof over my head, I eat more than five times a day, I have the conveniences of life that people who live simpler lives do not experience, but I always wish I had more. More money for travelling, more money to eat at restaurants I see in social media, more money to get clothes and shoes I can only oggle at in physical and online stores. I wish I were smarter, were more efficient, were kinder to myself and to others.

I wasn't always like this. I used to be okay with what I had because frankly, the things I have are the only things I really need. But scrolling through FB and IG has Trucked me up, no shit. When someone posts about a recent trip, I feel a pang of envy. When I see an awesome pair of sneakers, I get sad because I don't have enough to get it, or if I do, I would need to save it because I could use the money for something a lot more important.

I don't know why I feel like this. I feel incomplete. Inadequate. I know that contentment is the only answer to what I'm feeling. But I don't know how to feel contented. And it makes me angry that I feel like this especially because I know I have really nothing more to ask for.
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Re: GREEN-EYED MONSTER
« Reply #1 on: August 28, 2019, 01:23:45 PM »
I think most of us cannot be happy for others because we want what others have. Otherwise, we would not even care that they have this and that. Like frustrated author said, almost everything in social media is made to look cool and glamorous. Those who care about these posts get envious, and those who are contented with their own lives and their own stuff wouldn't even be bothered to look.

It's natural to feel envious, I guess. Otherwise, people would not strive to be and do greater things. Sometimes, envy or jealousy can work in a good way - if it inspires others to be and do better. But if it causes you to have ill feelings toward another, then that's when it becomes a bad thing.

But then being angry or resentful is part of human nature. Just as long as you do not cause anyone harm, then I think you're good. Of course, harboring bad feelings toward something or someone is not good for your own health, either. Something about hormones and stress that make your immunity go down and make you more susceptible to diseases.

I guess what I'm saying is that if you are envious or jealous, then just let yourself feel the full range of your negative emotion and then get over it. No use dwelling over things that you cannot do or have. Better yet, use your negative emotion as fuel to strive and make yourself better.



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Re: GREEN-EYED MONSTER
« Reply #2 on: September 29, 2019, 07:08:01 PM »
I guess what I'm saying is that if you are envious or jealous, then just let yourself feel the full range of your negative emotion and then get over it. No use dwelling over things that you cannot do or have. Better yet, use your negative emotion as fuel to strive and make yourself better.

I guess you're right. Thanks. I don't feel as bad as I did when I first posted that, but once in a while I still find myself wishing I was this and that. Maybe I can just work and save and maybe go to those places too someday. And do some of those things. Or maybe not.

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Re: GREEN-EYED MONSTER
« Reply #3 on: October 08, 2019, 05:45:13 PM »
I think you need a detox from social media. The bad feeling stems from looking at these posts, so maybe don't visit your social media. Delete your accounts, and move along. Those posts are not the be-all and end-all of life. Find something else to do if you feel the urge to check your facebook or instagram. Write a book - since your name says you are a frustrated author. Maybe instead of looking at posts, you can write a few lines and start your book. It's a great idea, don't you think?